All of us at some point in our lives feel anxiety, stress, or even distress. Sometimes we get to the stage of knowing that this is the time for us to do some personal work – to deal with the issue once and for all – and we might think of working with someone like a coach, a counsellor or a therapist. One question people often have is which profession is best for the issues we are facing (read more about that here). Other, and probably more important questions people have are:
Will they be right for me? What will they be like? Will they be kind enough?Sympathetic enough? Worldly enough? If I tell them what’s really going on for me and how I feel about it … will they understand? Will they actually know how to help me?
One thing I cant tell you is who will be right for you. Finding a coach or counsellor is a bit like dating – it’s in the chemistry – what works for some doesn’t work for others. What I can tell you is that when looking for support for our own development, or growth, our own internal healing, we all need two things: compassion and strength. We need someone alongside us who is able to truly feel compassion and care for us, for the pain and difficulty that comes with being human. And we need someone who is potent enough to challenge us when we need it. If you look for those two qualities, you won’t go far wrong.